The Clinical Director of Sedona Sky Academy, Mike Gurr spoke on "Parent Choices for Struggling Teens." a weekly radio show that is hosted on LA Talk Radio highlighting solutions for adolescents in crisis. He was interviewed by Lon Woodbury, a Kindle author and the publisher of Woodbury Reports. Mr Woodbury is an Independent Educational Consultant. He has been assisting families in crisis since 1984.
A Brief Bio on Mike Gurr
Sedona Sky Academy is an all girls school in Rim Rock, Arizona. Here Mike Gurr serves as its Clinical Director. Prior to becoming a counselor after getting a master's degree in Professional Counseling from Argosy University, he was a coach in high schools and colleges because had obtained a masters degree from the University of Utah in Exercise and Sport Science.
How Combating Shame Restores Psychological Well-being
Combating shame, Mike contended, is the best way to help adolescents restore emotional well-being.
Shame, said Mike, is a result of two primary fears. The first is that I am not good enough. The second is questioning self-worth. Behind both fears is the belief if that others really knew us, they would not like us. This is what keeps the cycle of shame going.
Low self-esteem and a large number of psychological problems are linked to shame. Shame is the result of false belief systems that keep people small and prevent them from being genuine with others. People who feel ashamed of themselves crave a sense of belonging, but do not feel that they are good enough to connect with others. What's more, shame is often disguised as introversion and shyness or extroversion and aggression.
Our achievement based society actively promotes shame, and, in fact, it is considered an essential part of parenting, teaching, and acculturation. However, it results in a person playing the victim, blaming others, feeling apathetic, and assuming an attitude of entitlement.
Letting go of wondering what other people think about us can lead to happiness, loving-kindness, and creative living. The way to do this would be to develop shame resilience. Someone who had developed shame resilience would notice shame-producing people and circumstances, and learn simple skills like speaking through their sense of shame, as well as simply showing up, being present, and staying completely authentic. In essence, combating shame was all about noticing shame triggers and refusing to drawn into feelings of shame.
In closing, Mike shared the process he uses for combating shame at Sedona Sky Academy and gave real-life examples of how he empowered students to quit numbing out and allow themselves to become more vulnerable and authentic.
A Brief Bio on Mike Gurr
Sedona Sky Academy is an all girls school in Rim Rock, Arizona. Here Mike Gurr serves as its Clinical Director. Prior to becoming a counselor after getting a master's degree in Professional Counseling from Argosy University, he was a coach in high schools and colleges because had obtained a masters degree from the University of Utah in Exercise and Sport Science.
How Combating Shame Restores Psychological Well-being
Combating shame, Mike contended, is the best way to help adolescents restore emotional well-being.
Shame, said Mike, is a result of two primary fears. The first is that I am not good enough. The second is questioning self-worth. Behind both fears is the belief if that others really knew us, they would not like us. This is what keeps the cycle of shame going.
Low self-esteem and a large number of psychological problems are linked to shame. Shame is the result of false belief systems that keep people small and prevent them from being genuine with others. People who feel ashamed of themselves crave a sense of belonging, but do not feel that they are good enough to connect with others. What's more, shame is often disguised as introversion and shyness or extroversion and aggression.
Our achievement based society actively promotes shame, and, in fact, it is considered an essential part of parenting, teaching, and acculturation. However, it results in a person playing the victim, blaming others, feeling apathetic, and assuming an attitude of entitlement.
Letting go of wondering what other people think about us can lead to happiness, loving-kindness, and creative living. The way to do this would be to develop shame resilience. Someone who had developed shame resilience would notice shame-producing people and circumstances, and learn simple skills like speaking through their sense of shame, as well as simply showing up, being present, and staying completely authentic. In essence, combating shame was all about noticing shame triggers and refusing to drawn into feelings of shame.
In closing, Mike shared the process he uses for combating shame at Sedona Sky Academy and gave real-life examples of how he empowered students to quit numbing out and allow themselves to become more vulnerable and authentic.
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